I hope you find this holiday filled with fun! Celebration and peace. This month always feels a little different for me.
May holds Mother’s Day, and while many people know me as “Dr. Tammy,” before any title, I’m a mom.
My son is 22 and serves in the Army National Guard.
And if you’re a military mom, you understand something most people can’t fully explain. There’s this strange mix of pride and ache that lives in your chest at the same time.
You’re unbelievably proud of the person they’ve become… but you also understand what it means to let someone you love step into something bigger than themselves.
You don’t just raise them.
You release them.
That takes strength.
So when Memorial Day comes around, it’s never just another holiday weekend to me. It’s personal. It makes me stop and think about the families who sacrificed everything. The moms who raised heroes. The spouses who carried entire households while someone served. The people who quietly live with loss while the rest of the world keeps moving.
And honestly… it also makes me think about the women I see every single day in my clinic.
Because so many women are carrying invisible weight too.
They’re exhausted but keep pushing.
Running households.
Taking care of parents.
Working jobs.
Supporting everyone else emotionally.
Showing up for everybody while slowly disappearing themselves.
And somewhere along the way, they stopped feeling like themselves.
What I See Every Day
Women who give everything to everyone else… but are completely depleted themselves.
- They’re not sleeping.
- Their energy is gone.
- The scale keeps climbing no matter how “good” they eat.
- Their anxiety is worse.
- Their patience is thin.
- Their brain feels foggy.
- Their motivation disappears.
- Then they finally ask for help… only to be told their labs are “normal.”
That’s not normal. That’s hormones being ignored.
I’m going to say something that probably won’t surprise you coming from me:
Just because something is common does not mean it’s normal.
Women are being dismissed every day for symptoms that are very real.
Hormones affect every cell in the body. Your brain. Your sleep. Your metabolism. Your mood. Your inflammation. Your skin. Your energy. Your motivation. Yet somehow women are often made to feel dramatic for noticing the changes.
That’s backwards.
You can be grateful for your life and still admit you feel terrible.
You can be strong and still need support.
You can love your family deeply and still realize your body needs help too.
Those things are not weakness. They’re biology.
And when hormones are finally supported properly, the changes can be life-changing.
That’s why I created Hormone Bliss.
Not as another trendy wellness gimmick.
Not as a band-aid.
Not as “just take this supplement and hope for the best.”
I built it because women deserve answers. They deserve education. They deserve to understand what is happening inside their own bodies instead of feeling confused, dismissed, or medicated into silence.
This Memorial Day, I hope you enjoy time with the people you love. I hope you slow down long enough to breathe a little. And I hope you remember that taking care of yourself is not selfish.
The women who carry everyone else deserve support too.
And to all the military families reading this, thank you. Your sacrifice matters more than words can say.
Memorial Day weekend can also feel a little overwhelming sometimes.
The grocery shopping.
The cooking.
The planning.
Trying to make the BBQ nice.
Making sure everyone has what they need.
Keeping the family happy while secretly wondering if you’ll ever sit down yourself.
Women tend to become the emotional event planners of the entire holiday.
You do not have to create a Pinterest-perfect holiday to create meaningful memories.
Some of the best moments happen sitting in a lawn chair eating a slightly burned hot dog while laughing with people you love. Perfection is overrated. Connection is not.
And in the middle of all the cookouts and shopping carts and potato salad… I hope we all pause for a moment and remember what Memorial Day is really about.
Military service is deeply personal in my family.
Not only is my son serving in the Army National Guard, but my fiancé served in the Air Force, along with his father, his brother, and sister-in-law. Our family is very immersed in the meaning behind “thank you for your service.”
For us, it’s not just a phrase people throw around once a year. It represents real people, real sacrifice, long deployments, missed holidays, fear, courage, and families carrying responsibilities behind the scenes every single day.
One thing I’ve learned is this:
Acts of kindness heal the giver too.
Love has a ripple effect.
So if you want to practice a little self-care this weekend that actually feeds your soul, here are a few simple things that matter more than you realize:
- Send a quick text to someone who served and simply say, “Thank you. I appreciate you.”
- If you see a veteran posting on Facebook, leave a kind comment and let them know their service mattered.
- Teach your kids what Memorial Day actually represents.
- Donate if you’re able. In this newsletter, we’ve included a link to support disabled veterans because many continue fighting battles long after they come home.
- Hold the door open. Be patient in public. Smile more. Offer grace faster.
Small acts of kindness create something powerful inside of us. They remind us we belong to each other.
And honestly, in a world that feels increasingly disconnected sometimes… that matters.
Love and acceptance are contagious. So is gratitude.
And sometimes the best form of self-love is becoming a source of peace, appreciation, and encouragement for someone else.
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